Tuesday, 23 October 2012

What A Shame.

Ah, how sad. I've been to scared to go back to my local op shop for the past few weeks because last time I went, everyone in there (staff included) were rude to me because I was wearing cult party. I had visited the op shop in similar coords before, and in fact, most of my outfit had been purchased at that store! It made me very nervous. I know I dress in an unusual way for Australia and I expect a few stares, but everyone I happened to walk past that day was horrible. I can deal with one of two rude people pointing, but it was over 30 people that time, at the train station, at the op shop, on the street, everywhere. And it was my nth time in cult party in my area!

Usually, I do not let anyone elses opinion affect my clothing choices. That's the difference between style and fashion, you know? But if absolutely every stranger on the street is making comments like 'I would not be caught dead in that' or refusing me service in stores and gasping and sighing dramatically- I get nervous and anxious.

I want to pretend I'm doing study at university or something, and hand people a survey on a clipboard when they walk past me.

  • Why did you react like that to my outfit?
  • Did you think twice about why it shocked you?
  • Do you have a problem with/are you offended by long silk dresses and lace?
  • Did you think to respect me as a human before nudging your friend and gossiping?

It just confuses me really, because I think cult party is an as un-offensive style as it gets. No rude symbols or words, no political or religious statements, not 'a lot of skin showing' (not something I have a problem with, but others might) etc. etc.

I don't want to have to be nervous about wearing what I want to wear in my own neighbourhood.
Think I'm a weirdo for wearing a nightgown out all you like, but you'll never be as comfy as me. My silk dress is light as air, cozy, and beautiful. You will never know the joy of sifting through a clothes rack and finding the perfect vintage dress for $3. Don't scoff at me, I should be scoffing at you. If only you could be comfortable enough in your own skin to dress the way you wanted to. Pity.

 Jacket and nightie are thrifted (also wearing another thrifted nightie as an underdress), bag is from Typo, Vans were bought at Hot Topic.

Everything but the shoes are gifts or thrifted. Dress is worn as a skirt. I later added white tights and a brown belt to this coord.


  1. Wow, this is seriously messed up. They have absolutely no reason to be rude to you, a customer, especially in regards to the way you dress.

    This really confuses me, admittedly I'm not totally familiar with fashion but the fact that the way that someone dresses can elicit any sort of negative reaction makes me sick.

  2. where do you live? I live in Melbourne and people dress different and crazy all over the place, especially Fitzroy and the city. I've never really seen anyone react or care so I am really surprised by that! It's really rude. Don't let it stop you from expressing yourself with your clothes!

    1. i live in sydney. it's like that in the city here too, but i live about half an hour away from the cbd. thank you n.n

  3. i've missed your blog so much! this was awful to read though but i LOVE cult party and i wish i had someone like you in the uk to dress up in it with and kick judgemental butt on the streets!

    1. what a lovely comment! i've missed your blog as well, looking forward to seeing what you post on your new one (:


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